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This week is going to be a very busy week off work. It mainly consists of me running Noah from one play-date to the next. Why have I said “yes” to every invitation he received? It’s simple. I think that friendships are very important, and want to teach Noah this too. Above all, I want him to have fun. If this means I’ll spend the majority of my week off giving in to his wishes, then that’s what I’ll do!
Allowing Noah to play with his friends a lot eases my worry that he’ll not socialise well as an only child! His friends will become the siblings he might not have. For this reason, this is perfectly fine by me.
He doesn’t have me wrapped around his little finger. He’s also not a spoilt brat. I just think that teaching him to appreciate friends now might encourage him to be kind and thoughtful in later years.
As an adult I appreciate my friends a hell of a lot (see my guest post on GreatHERday). From my sisters, to my best friends, to my new friends that I’ve met through Noah, I believe that friendships are a key feature in leading happy and well-balanced lives.
Why friendships are important…
There’s so much research out there about friendships, and why building meaningful and long-lasting ones is important. But I’m just going to speak from the heart, and from experience. Here are my top 10 reasons for having a close-knit group of friends (alongside some killer tunes to go with the theme)…
1. Friendships boost our self-confidence
Whenever I’m having moments of doubt, my friends will help me to get over them. They don’t always blow smoke up my arse, and they will tell me when I’m being ridiculous, but my friends also remind me of what’s good in my life, and what I do well. It’s my friends who encourage me to be kind to myself.
2. Friends are my comfort zone
For days when I don’t want to dress up, or wear make-up, or brush my hair, my friends are the people who I can still see! They’ve seen me puking into a toilet (or kitchen sink, slow-cooker, or whatever is handy) after too many glasses of Prosecco, so they totally don’t mind seeing me looking as though I’ve just climbed out of bed! No judgement here!
3. Friendships cure loneliness
Sometimes I want to be alone! I don’t mind this at all, and I’m getting good at keeping myself company without feeling the need to crawl under the duvet. But I know that my friends are just a text or a Snapchat away when I do need them.
4. We get each other’s quirks
Some of my traits may seem strange to people who don’t know me well, but my friends celebrate them with me! Mixing Popcorn with Maltesers at the cinema, or watching Gilmore Girls constantly on repeat is just the norm for them, just as I find some of their little habits perfectly normal when others would run a mile! It’s just us!
5. I can share my secrets with them
I don’t tend to have dark secrets, as I’m a pretty open book. But those things about me that I don’t want many people to know, my friends know. I’m 100% comfortable with this as I know that they’re not out for gossiping or spreading rumours. We’re adults, we keep each other’s secrets and never hold them against each other. They also encourage me not to be ashamed of who I am, and therefore encouraging me to let go of many “dark” secrets.
6. Friends accept each other, warts and all
There’s a common theme here, but great friends accept all our flaws and never make us apologise for them. It doesn’t mean that we have a free-pass to treat each other poorly, we just recognise mistakes and never make us suffer for making them.
7. Friends share inside jokes
I couldn’t possibly divulge, as inside jokes remain inside jokes, but there’s no better feeling than hearing a certain song and bursting into laughter, or stopping to record it as a voice note to send to your mates.
8. Friends understand each other
When nobody else can relate to you, or when your dreams and goals seem strange to those around you, your close friends will make every effort to understand. I’ve talked about wanting to develop my passion for coaching and mentoring, and rather mocking me for having nonsense dreams, they’ve knocked down the glass ceilings and have shown true belief in me!
9. Adventures a non-stop with friends
Nothing is too unusual or too mundane with friends. The simplest activity can turn into an adventure. Everything is exciting and fun, even just a trip to a shop to look for Pasoa (circa 2009). Every get-together makes memories.
10. Unconditional love
Friends have no reason to love us, but they do. They’re not our parents, or family, so they don’t have to stick around. Yet good, true friends will stay by our sides for life. Friends can escape at any time, and many do. The mark of true friendship is looking back after a period of time, be it 2 years or 20 years, and they’re still next to you.
In short, I truly want Noah to build lasting friendships (becoming friends with the other school Mams is a bonus). He might be friends with his gang in 30 years. Or he might not be. I hope these early friendships teach him to value and cherish friendships. I have gained and lost friends over the years, but the ones worth cherishing are still by my side and there for me unconditionally. I’m a very lucky lady.