Happy Valentine’s Day
Hold it right there! This is not another sentimental Valentine’s Day post. I do not believe in them. In fact, PDRs (Public Displays of Romance) make me want to vomit in my own mouth. I know what you’re thinking: “here’s another bitter old spinster out to spoil our romantic fun”! Au contraire, mon ami! I am a happily married lady who is very much in love. I just don’t like to publicly display this too often. My idea of romance is also very different to the norm. I’m more of a romantic with my BFF/bestie/wifey (all terms that I am aware that I’m too old to use) than I am with the hubby. So there!
All this being said, I still want to wish you all a very “Happy Valentine’s Day”.
Is self-love the best love?
Self-love. I’m just going to leave that there. It’s a term I’ve been getting my own head around recently. Is it a bit strange to link self-love and Valentine’s Day? I don’t think so. I love the theory behind it, but I’m not a fan of the name, for rude “mind-in-the-gutter” reasons. However, I am very much of the opinion that we should all be celebrating ourselves, treating ourselves with kindness and being our own BFF/bestie/wifey as much as being anyone else’s. Why? We’re in a relationship with our own fine self for longer than we are in one with anyone else. Why not treat ourselves as though this is the case, instead of being our own worst enemy?
This post is a quick guide to how you can celebrate Valentine’s Day with yourself, regardless of what your relationship status is.
Fabulous ways to treat yourself well this Valentine’s Day…
I’m no guru, but I am learning to be very good at treating myself to some well-earned “me time”. Valentine’s Day should be no exception. Here are my favourite ways to make myself as fabulous as can be:
- Pamper yourself
This is simple, and effective. Run a bath, or have a hot shower. Use those products that you save for “best”, for me it’s my L’Occitane stuff or my Forever Living Aroma Spa set. Light a candle, or whatever floats your boat, and chill out with a face mask on. Give yourself a spa quality facial at home (struggle for brand ideas? Try my online shop). Paint your nails (feel free to be predictable in a Valentine’s Day choice of shade), shave your legs, exfoliate… do whatever you need, whatever you don’t have time to usually do properly!
- Watch a film
I find myself being dragged into a world of “husband-proof” films when we have a movie night. Andy’s not too good at watching films that I want to see. I like to watch something “girly” or “artsy fartsy” without hearing “this is awful” or “turn this off”, so it’s a real treat when I take myself upstairs to watch a film on my own. Last night I watched Valentine’s Day, but it was no Love, Actually!
- Read a book
As I said in a recent post, I’m all for reading books about or by powerful women. They inspire me, and make me feel like the person I really am. Like it’s ok to be your authentic self without apology. What better way to treat yourself this Valentine’s Day than an hour with an amazing and inspirational person, be them fictional or not.
- Wear nice pyjamas
For me, this is an important one. I LOVE, and I mean LOVE, new pyjamas. They’re never sexy or silky, but they are always comfortable, fun and end up my favourite items of clothing! Is there a better feeling than getting into a freshly made bed with brand new PJs? I don’t think so!
- Enjoy a little bit of what you fancy
Chocolate? Champagne? Treat yourself. Denying yourself anything in life is sacrilege, but when you work hard and want to spoil yourself, why not do it with some Bollinger and chocolate (or your tipple of choice)? Relax, enjoy a class of something nice, and let the world pass you by.
- Make a list of what you like about yourself
We’re all so good at criticising ourselves, why not turn this bad habit on it’s head and actually praise ourselves? Get out that project book and start listing what you like about yourself.
- Take yourself on a date
I did this recently, see my post Dating Myself, and I felt so empowered afterwards. I’m definitely going to make this a monthly thing, be it going to the cinema on my own or out for a meal whilst flying solo.
- Plan something special for you and a significant other
Now, I know that this post is all about celebrating your relationship with, well, you! But what’s more rewarding than planning something nice for someone else? Spend a bit of time organising a date, or treating a loved one to something thoughtful. I promise you, it will make you feel wonderful in the process!
So what if I am! I’ve talked about this in the past: sometimes you’ve got to be selfish to be good to other people. I feel too overwhelmed if I don’t have a time out occasionally. I need some space from everyone in order to gather my thoughts, sort my anxiety out and get my shit together. If I didn’t do this once in a while, I’d be a stressed-out, overworked, anxious mess. And how is this going to help my family?
Don’t ever apologise for taking some time for yourself, nor should you ever associate a bit of self-love with outright egotism. Enjoy it. Embrace it.
Don’t you deserve it?